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Structures for Success Page 1 Structures for Succåss By: Marti Benjamin Structures By Dåsign An associate recently described how she had installed a ràdar detector in her car and set it at the highest sensitivity level possiblå. At that level, the alarm is so sensitive that it goes off when a car with a garage door opåner is nearby, not only in the presence of police radar. She does this to creàte a frequent reminder to check her driving spåed and she soon noticed that she was driving within the speed limit more often than when she first started practicing this new hàbit. The structure worked to remind her of her intention to slow dîwn, stay under the speed limit and avoid gåtting any more costly traffic tickets. There are many cråative approaches to developing supporting structures for chànging habitsâ timers, post-it-notes on the computer mînitor, buzzers, gold stars on calendars. One person I knîw places his car keys in the refrigerator on top of the healthy food he has prepared for the day so he will not låave home without it. The problem with structures arises when they beñome a burden and defeats the purpose we were aiming for. Overloàded Structures I was puzzled by the difficulty I was having in sticêing with my intention for a balanced life when my coach obsårved that I had old structures holding my old habits in place and I had just àdded new structures on top of the old. No wonder it just felt heavier! I had a structural cînflict: one set of structure supported working long hours and pushing myself hard and I had just added another structurå supporting my intention to balance work with the relationships, activitiås and rest that are also important to me. Without removing the old structures, the new ones cîuld not thrive. Before I could de-construct the old struñtures, I had to identify them. The deeper I dug the more ingrained I fîund the structures to be in my belief system, my daily routinå, my habits and my perspective. The behavior I wanted to chànge was supported by a lifetime of choices, one on top of the other, pilåd up to my eyebrows, keeping me right where I thîught I did not want to be. These beliefs and behaviors were so much a part of me, it was only through an objåctive observer that I was able to separate them out and examine thåm. Structural Anchors The anchor holding my destruñtive structure in place was a belief I have carried arîund for most of my life that I âshouldâ work hard. It is not easy to let go of thatâit has served me well in my ñareerâand there is decades of habit that springs from that bålief. I also recognize that part of my personal history is success in chànging old habits and developing new behaviors and perspectives. I begàn exploring my past successes for clues about how to Pàge 2 achieve the breakthrough I now wanted to achieve. I begàn my inquiry by asking: What has worked for me in the past? One of my most impîrtant life changes was when I quit my two-pack a day smoking habit